Thursday, May 25, 2006

Love is different....

There's this really awesome Caedmon's Call song called "Love is Different."

'Cause love is different than you'd think
It's never in a song or on a TV screen
And love is harder than a word
Said at the right time and everything's alright
Love is different than you think

I couldn't agree more... Love continually surprises me. The depth to which we can love someone else. At our wedding, our pastor said something that has stood out in my mind -- He said that at this very moment, you guys think that you love each other as much as you possibly can. You you don't. As the years go by, you'll find that you love each other more than you could imagine.

He was right.

But as we've been together longer (3 years next month) I've realized some things about love.

Love is:
* Holding someone's hair when they are puking their guts out.
* Putting someone elses needs above your own.
* Looking into someone's eyes and though you realize there'll be hard times, choosing to love them anyway.
* Commitment.
* Letting someone else make the decision sometimes.
* Going to get KFC, even though you hate it, because the other person wants it.
* Fighting because you are bothered by the fact that the other person is hurting themselves.
* Being willing to die for someone.
* Realizing that even though you actually can live without that person, you really don't want to.

Love isn't:
* Always a feeling. Sometimes you really don't like that person.
* Mushy, touchy-feely- and up each other's butt all the time.
* Like it is on TV.
* Always pretty.
* The feeling like you can't live without them. You can...

Most of my ideas on what love was and what it should look like have been shattered by actually loving. There are times that my husband and I drive each other completely and utterly crazy, to the point that we don't even want to be in the same room with each other. But even in that moment of extreme frustration and not wanting to see him... I'd still jump in front of a bullet. Its crazy, it doesn't make sense, its deeper than it was yesterday, and I expect it'll be deeper tomorrow.


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